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The Power & Healing of Allowing
Part one: Your relationship with others.
It is easy to be frustrated when we see
someone’s potential fade due to what we view as their ‘bad’ choices.
But that frustration isn’t helpful. The better way is to operate
from a place of allowing. At the end of the day, those ‘bad’ choices
are their's alone.
All of us have tendencies to want to fix
people, to tell them what to do, and then we may become frustrated
when our advice isn’t followed. It’s important to truly understand
that even if they are making a ‘bad’ choice, it is their life and
they have a right to their choices.
Would you like it if
someone interfered with your life and choices? Probably not. Each of
us are here on a spiritual journey, a process to learn and master
personal aspects for our growth and spiritual elevation. When we
interfere with someone’s life and choices, we may be taking an
important lesson from them - a lesson that will have to be learned
in another way. In reality, forcing our decisions on others can hurt
instead of the intending helping. Forcing our solutions can keep
them from moving forward and blazing new paths of personal growth.
It can be difficult, especially when it involves family members
or a close friend, to allow without interference. I have had to
watch people I know suffer with health issues because they do not
want to work with me or seek alternative care – including some
family members. Although difficult, I have to respect and allow
their choices. I am at peace with this.
Why is this
important? We do not have the knowledge to fully understand what
each person is here to experience and learn. We don’t have all the
answers about where each person currently is in their journey and
what their next lesson might include. When we continue to fix, bail
someone out, worry, and persuade - we are interfering with their
journey. It is imperative that we allow other’s their journey. And
when that allowing occurs without feelings of angst, we can more
fully embrace our inner-peace.
I am reminded of the allegory
of the carrot and cabbage: Both are growing in rows next to each
other in a garden. Does the carrot say to the cabbage, “Hey, you
should be like me; thin and protected under the ground,”? Does the
cabbage say to the carrot, “You should be like me; opening to the
world in a big way versus hiding under the earth,”? No. Both focus
on their growth, instead of the growth of those around them. If all
of us could be like the cabbage and the carrot, we would all have so
much more harmony and less angst and stress in our world.
Allow others to be how they are, and allow yourself to be you.
Simple yet profound.
All that energy that was used on trying
to change someone, can now be devoted to you – someone who you can
change! How perfect!
Just as I’d like to encourage you to
allow other’s to make their choices, I also want to embolden you to
make choices of your own. When someone repeatedly shows up to hurt
you, ignores you, or are negative - you have a choice. You can
choose to not spend a lot of time with them, to walk away, or allow
them to walk away. Remember the old saying ‘people are in your life
for a reason, season, or a lifetime’? If that season or reason comes
to pass, embrace the natural parting. Often as old relationships
come to a close, new ones have an opportunity to flourish.
Let’s not forget you in all of this. It is important to allow
yourself the right to express your true self without hesitation.
Allowing yourself to be a priority.
Next month I’ll continue
this topic with: Allowing You to be You!
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